Seeking therapy is a courageous step toward self-improvement and healing, yet many people hesitate to take this step because of shame. The stigma surrounding mental health issues and the perception of therapy as a sign of weakness often prevent individuals from reaching out for the support they need.
The Power of Therapy
Why Do People Feel Shame About Seeking Therapy?
Stigma Surrounding Mental Health: Despite growing awareness of mental health issues, stigma persists. Society often views mental health struggles as a sign of personal weakness or failure, leading many to internalize these beliefs. This stigma can cause individuals to feel embarrassed or ashamed about needing help, making it harder to seek therapy.
Cultural and Societal Expectations:
In many cultures, there is an expectation to "tough it out" when facing challenges, especially for men. The idea of being self-reliant and handling problems on one's own is often glorified, while seeking help is seen as a sign of vulnerability. This cultural conditioning can lead to feelings of shame when considering therapy.
Fear of Judgment:
The fear of being judged by others—whether by family, friends, or colleagues—can be a powerful deterrent. People may worry that others will think less of them if they admit to seeing a therapist, or they might fear that their struggles will become a topic of gossip.
Misconceptions About Therapy:
Some people believe that therapy is only for those with severe mental illnesses or that it involves lying on a couch and recounting childhood traumas. These misconceptions can make therapy seem daunting or unnecessary, leading to feelings of shame about considering it.
Internalized Shame:
For many, the shame of seeking therapy is deeply personal. They may believe that needing therapy means there is something fundamentally wrong with them or that they are incapable of handling life’s challenges. This internalized shame can be a significant barrier to seeking help.
Why You Shouldn’t Feel Shame About Seeking Therapy
Therapy Is a Sign of Strength:
Seeking therapy is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. Recognizing that you need help and taking proactive steps to improve your mental health requires courage. It shows that you are committed to your well-being and are willing to do what it takes to live a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Mental Health Is Health:
Just as you would seek medical help for a physical ailment, seeking therapy for mental health concerns is essential for overall well-being. Mental health is just as important as physical health, and therapy is a valuable tool for maintaining it.
Therapy Is for Everyone:
Therapy isn’t just for people with severe mental health issues. It’s for anyone who wants to better understand themselves, improve their relationships, manage stress, or navigate life’s challenges. Everyone can benefit from therapy, regardless of their situation.
Breaking the Stigma:
By seeking therapy, you are helping to break down the stigma surrounding mental health. The more people talk openly about their experiences with therapy, the more normalized it becomes. This helps create a culture where mental health is prioritized and seeking help is seen as a positive, responsible choice.
Therapy Can Transform Your Life:
Therapy offers tools and strategies to help you cope with challenges, improve your mental health, and achieve personal growth. The benefits of therapy can be life-changing, leading to greater self-awareness, improved relationships, and a more fulfilling life.
Tips to Not Feel Shame with Therapy
Educate Yourself:
Learn more about what therapy involves and how it can benefit you. Many therapists offer consultations or provide resources that explain what to expect, which can make the idea of therapy less intimidating. If you’d like to schedule one with Wellness Simplified you can do so here.
Challenge Negative Beliefs:
Challenge these shameful beliefs by reminding yourself that everyone has struggles, and seeking help is a healthy, proactive way to address them.
Talk to Someone You Trust:
Sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust can help alleviate feelings of shame. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or mentor, talking about your interest in therapy can provide support and encouragement, making it easier to take that first step.
Focus on the Benefits:
Instead of dwelling on the shame, focus on the potential benefits of therapy. Consider how therapy can help you achieve your goals, improve your relationships, and enhance your overall well-being.
Start Small:
If the idea of therapy feels overwhelming, start with small steps. Research therapists in your area, read testimonials, or explore online therapy options. Even just acknowledging that you’re considering therapy is a positive step forward.
Remember You’re Not Alone:
Millions of people seek therapy every day, and many have experienced the same feelings of shame or fear that you might be feeling. Remember that you’re not alone in this journey, and that many others have found therapy to be a powerful tool for healing and growth.
Seeking help is a courageous act of self-care, and it’s a step that can lead to huge personal growth and a healthier, more peaceful life. If you’re considering therapy, know that it’s a decision that can empower you to live your best life.
Aaron Benson, LCSW
Aaron has almost two decades' worth of experience helping people with different mental health issues including being a substance abuse counselor, health coach, and clinician. He specializes in helping men with anxiety, depression, grief, confidence, and anger issues. Aaron received a Bachelor of Sciences degree from Brigham Young University as well as a Masters of Social Work Degree from Eastern Washington University. His speciality is helping men in Utah and North Dakota through online therapy services.
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